Getting what you want from life
The bull’s-eye above reminds you to choose a target if you want to improve your life. The target is what you want out of life. This post assumes that you want to improve your life but may not know how to get started on that journey.
This post is divided into two parts. The first part is deciding to take charge of your life. The second part is deciding what you want out of life. These two things may seem to be obvious to you. However, I believe that if you do not get these two things right then your hope for improving your life is doomed to failure. Read this post and tell me if I’m wrong.
Deciding to take charge of your life
This may seem to be such stupid thing to be concerned about. After all, doesn’t every adult control their own life? I maintain that this is not always true. There may be a number of unconscious barriers to living your life the way you want.
You may have to overcome some artificial barriers before you feel free to make this decision. Following are some common barriers, along with reasons why they should not stop you from seeking a better life.
You may feel trapped and unable to do anything to improve your life.
Don’t try to make major changes overnight. Start by making small improvements and by increasing your personal power. Then as you develop experience and self-confidence, you’ll be able to make additional improvements.
You may consider yourself unworthy of having a happy life.
Okay, so you’re unworthy. However, many people could use your help. So stop feeling sorry for yourself and start helping them. (Of course, this will require that you take charge of your own life.)
You may feel that obligations to family or other people should take precedence over your own happiness.
You don’t need to forsake your obligations. In fact, you’ll be better able to satisfy these obligations by increasing your capabilities and gaining more control over your own life.
I hope that you now can decide about your future without being hindered by any artificial barriers. The choice of what to do with your life is entirely up to you. Naturally, I hope you will opt for a better life.
Deciding what you want from life
Now that you have overcome the first hurdle in improving your life, what next? Well, now you have to decide what you want from this improved life. Here are some ideas that may help you.
Many people seem to get the most enjoyment and satisfaction from life while fulfilling their true desires and using their natural talents. However, your true desires and natural talents may be buried under layers of social conditioning. I have developed some methods that may help you discover the real you. This involves making a list of those accomplishments and activities that brought joy to your life
Your achievements—what have you accomplished in your past life that made you very proud?
Your emotional highs—what activities in your past life have you enjoyed the most?
Pretend you are having a lucid dream—describe what you would do and why you would do that. (While having a lucid dream, you can do anything you want without regard for the laws of man or nature. You can be anybody or do anything. You can fly like Superman, travel to another planet, go back in time, or even go forward into the unknown future.)
Pretend you are by yourself for a month—how would you spend this time?
Now go over the notes from these four exercises. Don’t be concerned if the results seem silly or unrealistic. This is simply a way to reveal your true desires and natural talents. Future posts will show you how to use this information to improve your life.
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